There are so many questions that I wonder about the Bible. How do I know how to wait while I am trying to figure them out. I have been trying to figure out some things like: 1) Is the first part of 1 Cor. 11 cultural or literal 2) Is it okay to speak in tongues to oneself in a church service 3) How far must we go to prevent stumbling others . . . Plus many more.

For example, 1 Cor. 14:34 says, "Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says."
1 Tim. 2:11 says, "Let a woman learn in silence with all submission."
According to the strongs, silent means silence and churches means a meeting place (jewish synagogue, church) that includes saints of the earth and in HEAVEN. Yet, this word for woman means wife. Where do the single women lie in this? What are we called to do? Is it possible for when the Bible says the word, "brother" "man" it is really referring to the male gender only? I ask all of this not to bring more confusion, but to maybe figure it out. I know that I am called to pray and study out this issues. However, what do I do while I wait. Do I be silent or do I continue to speak? Is it my pride that makes me want to speak? Or if I stopped to speak, could I end being like the servant that buried his gift in the sand? I see both sides as not good options. I just want to serve the Lord and to try to understand what HE wants me to do. I know that I can't always be able to look, read, and follow. Yet, I definitely need some more insight on this one.

Tongues? . . . 1 Cor. 14:18-19 "I thank my God I speak with tongues more than you all; yet in the church I would rather speak five words with my understanding, that I may teach others also, than then thousand words in a tongue.
1 Cor. 14:16 (Amplified) "Otherwise, if you bless and render thanks with [your] spirit [thoroughly aroused by the Holy Spirit], how can anyone in the position of an outsider or he who is not gifted with [interpreting of unknown] tongues, say the Amen to your thanksgiving, since he does not know what you are saying?"
I guess my questions are: Can we not speak in tongues around other people? Even if it's under our breath? Can we not speak in tongues when other people are praying (in the known language). This is what I am seeing in the verses, yet I am not seeing it practiced - even by myself.

Stumbling others. . . How are we supposed to prevent others from stumbling when we don't know what stumbles them? How do we know if they are healed? How can we be cautious? As a group, can we prevent doing certain activities for the benefit of others? Can we be sensitive to everyone's needs and struggles? How far should we go for these things? Just random thoughts. . .