Communication
There comes a point in every relationship that people move along the communication curve. People move from greetings to sharing their opinions and interests to their struggles to eventually their fears and their deepest secrets.
In a normal, healthy relationship, people will move in the direction of casualty to intimacy. However, some people just don't mesh well enough to fully move to the most intimate parts of communication. Other times, when trust no longer exists or something occurs, people will move from the most intimate levels to lesser levels at later times. There is always a chance that it may change only on one side of the relationship to where both people are not fully aware that the change has taken place.
Everyone has the choice of who they want to share their feelings and struggles to. We are never required to share them with everyone. In certain situations, people will tell one person parts of a situation and will tell others all parts of the same situation. This by no means that the person is telling two different stories or is being dishonest to either of the people they are communicating with. There are times to where the situation will bring up the deepest parts of a person's being to where they may not be willing to communicate it as effectively to some people.
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Accountability
There is a level of accountability that people like to hold the people around them to. There are things that we can hold anyone to because there is no question if it is right or wrong. There are smaller struggles that people will often have one or a few close friends help them with. For the most part, I believe that people can choose and recognize who the people are that should hold them accountable.
Some people will use gossip as a form of accountability. This is completely wrong. If someone tells other people about a situation ~ especially when they don't know the amount of the situation that they are actually aware of ~ they are simply telling partial truths to people. This can be extremely destructive to the people in the situation as well as everyone that hears about it.
About Me
- Hannah
- I am a 28 yr. old woman, and my biggest hope is to be a light admist this darkened world.
4 comments:
AMEN SISTA!!!!!! :) They are all so true. Remember when I told you that I don't communicate everything with everyone? Now, its so much more clear, don't you think? Love you Wans.
Very well stated Hannah. I especially liked what you had to say about the gossip thing. Another way people can gossip is through prayer requests. I have seen it done many times. People will use a prayer request as a means of telling someone else something they really shouldn't be telling them. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with prayer requests as long as it is proper and not used as a way to gossip about someone. Good words Hannah. Blessings to you.
Keith
Thank you all. I totally agree with you Keith. It happens far too many times and our church is no exception. It's really sad, because people don't realize how much damage it can bring to a group of people.
Which is why there is a group of people I know who always think I'm "fine" because, frankly, I just don't want to get into it with them.
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